Dear friends,
I hope this letter finds you well, this is a letter from my heart for today. Will it be the same tomorrow? I cannot guarantee. I digress, I am a hopeless romantic, at least this is what I am told. "WHAA?! You want a man who will be a man and act like a gentleman? HA! Stop being a hopeless romantic and be realistic!" My heart shakes her fist at the naysayers. I have more respect and faith in men then to believe people telling me that men suck and only want what their eyes tell them is attractive, whether or not that said attractive person is available or otherwise. I have also been told that men are too lazy to step up any more, they want women to rule them and step to them like they are the prizes to be won.
I sigh at all this disappointing words floating around that men are worthless so we have to be both woman and man. Yet, sometimes I think it is not all their fault is it? Did not we put pressure on them that we don't want them to be gentlemen anymore? Didn't we punish them for protecting us, for pampering us, for treating us like we mean something to them? Why in the world would anyone or anything continue to do something that they are punished and disciplined for?
So forgive me world but I will not give up my belief that there are men out there raised properly, that there are men who respect and care for women like they're supposed to. I have met them and they have married some of my very close friends! They are worth honoring! Why does no one see this anymore? I heard a thing on the radio recently that said a study was done about how women and men feel loved.. It says that men feel love more from respect while women feel love more from emotional support. Which makes complete sense, both sides complain about how men do listen to us so they're not worth anything because when we are vulnerable or distraught they don't care. Whether they care or not if they don't listen and support us we believe they don't. The other side says women only nag and rebuke us! I get no love from her because I'm apparently only a burden.
What if we stopped looking at each other with these vicious filters on, we would be able to get much more done if we realize we are all worth more than we can fathom, and we can love others by being respectful to each other. I say often I wish some things were still like Victorian England, of course I realize women were not always treated as equals, but Gentlemen respected them and treated them properly. Did everyone fall in love? probably not, but arranged marriages and things of that sort still happen today.
My point in all of this is that I know good men are out there who know how to treat other people especially women and children just like there are women out there who honor them. My heart yearns for a love deep and passionate, with love and peace. I don't think half the marriages that end in divorce nowadays would if people just took the time to really love the other. Which means you don't always put yourself before them. You should be partners in all things.
I may be naive in my vision and dreams of marriage, perhaps they are even grand. However, no matter who tells me I won't find a good man, that men of good character who are not womanizers don't exist, that marriage is pointless because it will end, I will not back down. I believe marriage is beautiful, fun, loving, and that it can, and does last forever. I'm probably very old fashioned since I don't believe in going onto dating websites or putting adds out there. I believe in living your life to a full amount of everything and at some point you will meet someone going down the same path as you.
I'm not sure if I really got anywhere with this but I just felt bogged down with all the negativity against love, men, and relationships. I'm just a young single girl trying to stand up in my beliefs for my future relationship.
Love,
Samy
